When dating a single parent, he/she isn’t the only one in the equation, it solely expands to the children too. Quite hard you say ? This means a lot needs to be improvised since there is a third-party who equally needs the attention from you both.
Dating in this century is hard and it gets harder when it comes to single parents.
No sane parent would ever compromise on the happiness of their children, with this said, it then requires an equal participation of the
children. They mean the world to their parents and no one would love to age lonely and grappled,hence the need to find someone who is compatible with you, and also your children.
There are a lot of challenges facing single parents when dating. Some issues such as finding someone who loves you and will love your child, time, feeling used, the dominant ex
Suppose you find that single man, and has children. It’s quite a jackpot, right? Problems set in when those children retaliate against you! They want only their mother to be there for the dad. You can’t fight someones child for love, in the long run, you will lose that battle. This doesn’t mean that all children from single parents are inclined to their other parent, but it happens!
Another issue on children, is dating someone who doesn’t like your kids! Who does that? Why would anyone try date a single parent and not love his/her kids ? Are they normal ? And will this single parent be normal accepting such a person in their lives ? What if he/she marries you ? Do you know the amount of torture you would have subjected your kids to ? Parents and those in question should extensively think ahead when it reaches to this point.
Take time to also introduce your children to the persons you date, gradually. Not every Tom, Lewis and Mary should meet your kids. Be choosy, its good for you and your children. Least the child gets attached to a person then you end up breaking up. What comes to mind is, how well will one explain to a child why so and so left and will never come back ? Spare some agony to the Children!
Time is everything when it comes to dating. For a single parent, is literally VERY important! One has to manage their career, children and also his/her date. It spells out that the single parent should at least lay out a timetable for smooth-running of activities, Children should come first ! Get someone who understands that you can’t just pop out for a coffee dates out of the blues, can’t always appear at date nights all weekend nor even do sleep-overs at whichever house. Adults are best suited to understand but not children. They need you more than that date and it highly commendable that the person you date is sympathetic enough to know your struggles.
An ex refers to the previous baby daddy or baby mamma / the other parent. Here, you might find that ex who has completely refused to let go, and in most cases use the kids to fight their battles. Disgruntled ex are a pain in the a**! There are so many single parents who haven’t rode on the idea of dating solely because, they need peace . Drama brought by these exes is something painful, so they choose to remain single. The Psycho text messages to the current boy/girlfriend, setting up thugs to rough one up, poisoning the children against one, popping by the ex’s home without invitation (…leave alone those who stay at their exes house, haahaa) are just a list of the unpleasant things an ex could do!
In so many scenarios, most single parents often feel used by their counterparts when the relationship is on or doesn’t work. Many people assume that these single parents are so desperate to find love. So, they tend to take in everything that avails themselves ! It’s a sad state of affairs. Here is an example of a single mother, she meets a man… This man comes to live off her. In her house, doesn’t pay bills nor partake in anything ! Aren’t relationships supposed to be 50-50? What you dish out is whats expected in return, if not, have a run for the hills!!!
Not forgetting those single parents who will use you as a replacement dad/mom and expect you to fully cater for their needs. Heck, you are not yet married. Only expect 100% participation when fully committed. It’s not bad to help but at least do it in moderation or do it out of passion. Otherwise, you might be dumped and the ideal man/woman will be married within a week. Disclaimer, not all single parents do this.
If anyone needs their houses, clothes cleaned, seek services from professionals, the person you date isn’t your house assistant…. this goes out to single but not with children.
These are just but a few the dating world offers to single parents. It’s good to find love but one question that needs to linger on your mind is, “Is this good for me, my children and the other person ? ” Don’t try to impress one person at the expense of the other. There are awesome people who you are yet to meet/or met. Some, if it doesn’t work let go. No one died from being single. You have a whole life ahead of you, and children to mind. What should be yours will undisputed be yours. TAKE TIME AND EVALUATE WHAT PRESENTS ITSELF TO YOU.